Labeling Sadness vs Enabling Happiness, 5 Things You Need to Know
You become sad in the course of life. You were, at one time or another, happy.
The sadness becomes more or less “normal”. Life isn’t very enjoyable and certainly doesn’t feel like what “normal” should.
What do you do?
Because most people would “seek help” in this situation (counseling, therapy, etc), it may seem that their instinct is to change the condition and “feel better” in some way.
But, more usually, a desire burns for an answer to a primary question…
WHY?
Not knowing “WHY?” can be a more pressing issue than how to change it for the better.
But the answer to “WHY?” can vary depending on what you may consider “answers” to be. And in absence of logical, sound or reasonable ones, options become limited.
If, for instance, your dishwasher stops working, which would be a better approach to the situation?
- Labeling it “Broken Dishwasher” and “getting along without it somehow”
- Understanding how it’s supposed to work, finding what’s not working the way it should and restoring it to working order
It seems like a no-brainer, but the answer you choose would depend on the outcome you prefer or believe is even possible.
Should you desire to be tasked with hand-washing dishes as a way of “coping” or “dealing” with the problem, and do so for the rest of your days, choice #1 is the way to go. And if you’ve been told “dishwashers can’t be fixed” this may seem your only alternative.
But if you wish to have a properly-operating, optimally-functioning dishwasher to continue doing the dishes for you, restoring the convenience you once enjoyed, you’d have to go with choice #2 and get to the bottom of the issue.
The first thing that gives you any hope of repair, however, is first finding out WHY.
So you call in an expert, someone so familiar with the optimum workings of appliances that finding out ‘WHY?’ is a simple matter, and it’s as good as fixed.
Obviously the sensible choice, why would anybody otherwise choose the dead-end of a label when they can learn something about the way things should work and thereby discover the actual things that need repair?
Yet this is all that seems to be offered these days in response to the unhappiness and travail of life that everyday people experience. And, in absence of anything better, it can be easier to identify with a label than do nothing at all.
But, is there really nothing else that can be done?
Only in absence of these 5 basics of an optimal approach to the restoration of happiness…
What 5 Basic Requirements Comprise an Ideal Approach to Restoring Happiness?
To truly restore innate happiness, you would have to adhere to a few rules of thumb…
There would be 5 basic requirements you would need to resolve the problem and go from merely “stopping the sadness” to “recovering happiness”. And you can fulfill them by consulting the best-qualified person to give you advice or solutions: YOU!
Ultimately, when it comes to troubles of the mind, no one has a more direct look into yours than you. No one else can “see” in there and none are more qualified than you to interpret what comes to view, regardless of any challenges in adventuring to look.
Others who would help you can only help guide you through it. But it comes down to you, in the end, to actually do the looking and applying these 5 requirements.
These 5, simple basics are best known and applied by you, without seeking any interpretation by others. And, while it may have been fairly obvious from our “broken dishwasher” example what the right approach may be, there are still 5 key factors you would need to follow:
1. Understanding the Natural Purpose and Function of Your Mind…
Did you ever notice this step gets skipped when it comes to human problems and unhappiness? Does anyone ever wonder what the ideal mind may be, or even what should be expected as its “normal” condition?
Knowing when things “aren’t normal”, have you ever considered what “normal” would be? If not, you’re not alone.
With “abnormalities” abuzz in social and professional circles and only methods of “dealing” or “coping” being offered in response, we’re led to one conclusion: These problems cannot be solved, only “lived with” a little more comfortably. Problems are permanent. And “abnormal” becomes normal.
Labeling dead-ends further investigation, and limits “solutions” to years of “talk therapy” or even a lifetime of taking best-advertised, prescribed medications. Hardly a riddance of any problem, let alone a restoration of a natural state of happiness.
But, regardless of all these abnormalities, what would “normality” be composed of? How SHOULD the human mind work?
An optimum approach would require starting out with an understanding of the purpose and function of an optimum mind to achieve any permanent result at all.
By gaining this understanding, some basic laws about it would become possible.
2. Differentiating Between Causes and Effects…
Mold in your house. Contractor called. Mold remediation job bought and paid for.
Mold gone… (for the moment)
Mold comes back. Repeat process.
Conclusion: “I guess we live in a “moldy house” (label)
But what if you investigated further and found out your roof was leaking in such a way that moisture was constantly seeping into the insulation inside your walls? (cause)
“Moldy House” as a diagnosis didn’t solve the problem. That’s because it’s really an effect.
The cause? Leaky roof.
Fix the leaky roof and ELIMINATE the mold problem for good. Then live in the comfort of a home that was designed to be mold-free and safe.
It’s no different with your own state of mind if you understand its optimum function.
If you’re inherently happy (and once were), and if you, at some point, became unhappy, one thing is for sure: something changed!
This is a problem of Cause and Effect. Effects can always be traced back to the reasons they happened. And you would need this as your basic guideline in investigating, a must for an optimum and ultimate solution.
This would block labeling, eliminate dead-ends and certainly improve the goal of the process…
3. Setting “Riddance” As a Better Goal Than “Relief”…
Relief? Temporary.
Riddence? Gone for good!
Understanding the first two points, it becomes instantly clear why “riddance” is better than temporary “relief” from a problem. You’re not exactly relieved if you constantly must “re-live” the unpleasantness of it all. So riddance takes its place as part of the optimum solution.
Understanding ideal mind function and sorting out causes and effects in your life is the difference between coping (living with it) and riddance (reclaiming your native happiness). The latter would be the key goal of an effective approach.
Restoring happiness includes riddance of the things that would debar you from it and recovery of progressively more inherent happiness that is natively yours.
This would allow for a very systematic approach to reaching that better goal…
4. Systematically Working Backward From Effects to Their Cause…
To have an optimum solution to restoring happiness, you’d have to have a way of getting around various confusions that can accumulate and build up over the years.
So many experiences in life, so many memories, so little rhyme or reason. And so many long-since-forgotten things you may have labeled “repressed” and decided were impossible to contact ever again, not to mention those things you avoid that are downright unpleasant to look at.
But a simple understanding of how “cumulative” your experiences are (especially traumatic or otherwise upsetting ones) opens the door to plotting a systematic retrace of their accrual. Accumulated and stacked up, they can even clog up memory to the point where you can’t seem to access them.
Our leaky roof example can be illustrative of the cumulative nature of minor problems accumulating over time into more major issues. As can our “broken dishwasher” scenario.
While the labels “Moldy House” and “Broken Dishwasher” offer no solutions, tracing the timeline of the life of those objects reveals the accumulation of wear and tear, minor malfunctions and maintenance failures, each minor aspect adding up to an imminent yet “mysterious” breakdown.
Understanding the basic nature of their proper function as well as the laws of cause and effect, you can systematically and easily find a source causing their problems.
This is actually what experts do. They understand the optimum function and so can spot and fix these issues quite easily.
A top expert has the goal of a permanent fix, understands and traces cause and effect, answers “WHY?” and so can be effective in repairing the issue for good.
This is the exact approach that would be needed to ideally resolve the happiness problem.
But who says, while working with one, you can’t be an expert too? You actually CAN!
5. An Expert Assisting YOU Through a Set Process…
For appliance or home repair, it’s easy. You don’t need to be an expert when there are trained specialists who can look over the problem and see it even better than your untrained eye.
But, as for the human mind, there is only one person who can view yours: YOU.
Ideally, if you were able to achieve the 4 conditions above, a little help and guidance through a systematic process of putting it all together would be in order. After all, some significances and nuances of the mind are so easy to miss, wouldn’t it be ideal to have someone help you look thoroughly and find what you may have otherwise overlooked?
As you are the only person who can have a front-row seat to view what is recorded in your mind, this guide would have to be someone who understood, respected and encouraged that, never to interpret but always to lead you to find your own, very personal answers.
You would need someone very familiar with the process and who is apprised of your situation in detail, but who would only use that as a guide to get you through this process; someone who understands that each person has their own, unique circumstances and that no two are the same.
This comprises the difference between “relief” and “riddance” and what an effective result would fundamentally require.
You could even go so far as to say that a “self-counseling” program would be a great start…
Self-Counseling Program That Helps Recover Happiness Otherwise Lost…
Labels are a dead-end approach leaving only coping and “living with it” to deal with the issue.
But, are the 5 requirements of an ideal approach possible?
Our Self-Counseling program certainly includes all 5 of them, covering:
- PURPOSE OF THE MIND: You are issued a manual to follow which allows you to, first, understand the natural purpose and function of the human mind.
- CAUSES AND EFFECTS: You are additionally guided through understanding what types of things can happen to you in life and the effects they may cause.
- RIDDANCE: The goal of the process you follow in the manual is to rid you progressively of the things blocking your inherent positive emotions and abilities, recovering parts of you that you thought were lost. It’s not a “coping” method. It assists you to recover more of yourself and the inherent happiness that belongs to you.
- SYSTEMATICALLY SEEKING CAUSE: Each part of the process has you examine individual traits and aspects, personalized to your life, (your thoughts, your experiences) and systematically helps you recover what was lost in each area.
- EXPERT GUIDANCE: The entire process is supervised by an expert in the Self-Counnseling technique that strictly follows these guidelines.
How will you know the changes? Your issued manual actually comes with metrics you can use to tangibly measure your progress and how much “you” you recover in the process.
“Measurable change” is something you don’t see in other, would-be therapeutic approaches based on “cope” and temporary relief. Such metrics make it possible to track, predict and plan progress. This program empowers you to do that and methodically recover YOU.
To experience the optimum approach, it’s easy to get started. It begins with the Master Your Mind Self-Test you can do here or by calling (727) 216-5504 to talk with someone about it.
How much happiness is there to be recovered from your life? This program specifically and methodically helps you realize that. Find out now.
