Can love really be restored where it once lived and is all but gone?
Short answer?
Not only can it, but it does. And, when it happens, it goes 1-2-3.
So, yes, the original love and affection can indeed be restored.
All for knowing the basics of what real “love” is all about when it comes to marriages and relationships.
The beauty of it is that, with these basics, it can be so successful that it’s possible to prevent losing love in the first place. After all, if you could know the ABCs of this thing called love, you can maintain it, repair it and ensure it stays.
Testament to this is the multitude of great marriages lasting decades, the most famous of which is the longest on record, 90 years, set by Karam and Kartari Chand in 2015.
Couples like this have a secret. The only problem is that it’s so secret even THEY don’t know what it is. They just know what they have is different from other couples who don’t have “it”, whatever “it” is.
Wouldn’t it, after all, be of benefit to know what those secrets are?
The good news is it’s not only possible to know, but by applying this knowledge you can maintain the “perfect” relationship you envy in others or repair one that is “broken”.
To begin to understand the “secret” all you need to do is discover three simple-to-understand categories it breaks down into.
1. The first and most important category of relationship repair…
No, it’s not candy, chocolates or diamonds. It isn’t couples getaways. It isn’t apologies. It’s not mindfulness, gratitude or compromise. It isn’t “he-said-she-said” nor is it finding each other’s “faults” and attempting to correct them in each other.
Some of these may offer some benefits. But they by no means get to the heart of the matter.
It’s something way more fundamental but very powerful.
What is it?…
COMMUNICATION.
Now, you may at first think this is too obvious, overly simplified and far too elementary. But that is because you may not have grasped the actual meaning of what true communication is or gained a concept of what it is capable of.
For, knowing THIS, communication can not only keep you out of trouble, you’ll instantly know how to repair it; and, having repaired it, be able to fix the other two key components and therefore recover what love was there in the first place.
To achieve this, you’ll need to do three things:
- Understand the basic formula of communication, its component parts and come to an understanding of how to use it effectively. Rest assured, most people are far from this. You’re definitely not alone if you and your partner are lacking in this area.
- Put this understanding into direct application and practice. It takes practice and it can be learned and drilled until you can communicate effectively.
- Discover how communication gets blunted, cut, warped and otherwise “messed with” in the first place. There are a few basic reasons this happens and knowing them reveals how to protect your bond of communication with your partner as well as fix it when it’s “broken” and nonexistent.
As you can tell already, this would be a powerful change in and of itself, and there are yet two more components to observe!
2. The second component of successful relationships is second to none in its power…
With good communication, you can turn the page in any relationship, romantic, familial, social, business or otherwise. And this opens the door to GETTING ONTO THE SAME PAGE, the second, very crucial component of relationships.
Now, you may think it impossible to “agree on everything” and may have even been told that disagreement is “healthy” or that “opposites attract” when it comes to success.
But opposites have more than their fair share of split-ups too.
By “on the same page” and “agreement” we’re talking about more than just agreeing on certain “issues”. What about the foundation of a marriage or relationship itself? What about the basic agreements of why to be together in the first place?
And where circumstances may have changed, what of the new ones going forward?
Though it’s said that opposites attract, does it say “opposites last” or that they endure in the long run? Celebrity marriages alone may have convinced us otherwise.
But what of those couples who work together from the same source of passion or purpose? Having things in common in ideology, philosophy and purpose are important too.
Common ground can always be found somewhere, enough to make a relationship work from the start or repair where it’s broken.
This is very specifically done and often requires a little supervision, but if the prior step of communication is handled, this becomes an easier proposition. And you can get onto the same page where you weren’t before.
3. The final factor brings everything (and everyone) together…
What is the difference between the couple holding the world record for the longest marriage and two partners on the rocks, on the verge of divorce?
Isn’t it obvious?
The first couple is working together to win a game while the latter two are at odds, opponents playing opposite sides of the game, against each other where someone wins and the other loses.
But does anyone really win when it comes to breakups and divorce?
To safeguard against this or recover from it, you really need to know the specifics of what happens to cooperative endeavors and puts people at odds with each other who were basically communicating and agreeing prior!
Marital partners, business partners or even international relations, this is vital to success.
As you can see, the prior two components of COMMUNICATION and BEING ON THE SAME PAGE have a great deal to do with this last factor of teammates vs opponents.
Though there ARE specific barriers that escape most people’s attention that can ruin a “team sport” (so to speak), the good news is that they can be learned overcome and set back to right.
What REAL marriage counseling is made of has to do with these three components and a keen understanding of their mechanics in making or breaking a group (marriage, relationship, etc)
Can you imagine what’s possible if you knew THOSE secrets and could apply them?
You actually can…
1-2-3, Marriage and relationship counseling that works, simply because…
If you know how a house is built, what components make a strong, durable and liveable home, you can not only maintain one, but you’ll know instantly when something is wrong. And if you know a thing or two about the process it takes to maintain or repair it, you certainly can keep a house in order and in excellent shape.
Shouldn’t it be that way with your marriage? Shouldn’t relationships be this definable?
Who ever said they weren’t?
Only the people who didn’t know what a true marriage, a real, loving relationship consisted of. And, according to the breakup and divorce statistics of the day, it’s got to be at least half!
With communication, you have a channel where ideas can be exchanged. If you know the properties of proper communication you can get through.
If you can communicate, you certainly can be on the same page. And that leads to lots of agreement and cooperation which would mean more team play and less opposition or competition.
And, even when these fail, it’s like having the road map back to where you started. You start to know what’s wrong when something isn’t right and you can therefore fix it before it becomes a problem. This is what those successful couples don’t know they know.
We have a counseling program that does just this and because it is so effective (based on real fundamentals) it can save years of “couples therapy” and wasted time and effort.
One recent couple repaired a marriage they have been trying to fix for years in just seven days uncovering these fundamentals in their relationship and there are numerous other stories like that.
If it is at all possible to restore love and affection that you have long since lost, don’t you deserve a shot at finding out about it and possibly sorting it out?
You do. And your chance is here and now!
It just starts with a reach-out from you…
For help with your relationship or to help anyone else you know with theirs, reach out via text or call at (727) 216-5504. Or just email commsuccess.pam@gmail.com for a free discussion and assessment of the situation.
For further reading on the subject, check out this other article about “love on the rocks” and how to approach repairing it.