Short answer?

Not only can it, but it does. And, when it happens, it goes 1-2-3.

So, yes, the original love and affection can indeed be restored.

All for knowing the basics of what real “love” is all about when it comes to marriages and relationships.

The beauty of it is that, with these basics, it can be so successful that it’s possible to prevent losing love in the first place. After all, if you could know the ABCs of this thing called love, you can maintain it, repair it and ensure it stays.

Testament to this is the multitude of great marriages lasting decades, the most famous of which is the longest on record, 90 years, set by Karam and Kartari Chand in 2015.

Couples like this have a secret. The only problem is that it’s so secret even THEY don’t know what it is. They just know what they have is different from other couples who don’t have “it”, whatever “it” is.

Wouldn’t it, after all, be of benefit to know what those secrets are?

The good news is it’s not only possible to know, but by applying this knowledge you can maintain the “perfect” relationship you envy in others or repair one that is “broken”.

To begin to understand the “secret” all you need to do is discover three simple-to-understand categories it breaks down into.

1. The first and most important category of relationship repair…

No, it’s not candy, chocolates or diamonds. It isn’t couples getaways. It isn’t apologies. It’s not mindfulness, gratitude or compromise. It isn’t “he-said-she-said” nor is it finding each other’s “faults” and attempting to correct them in each other.

Some of these may offer some benefits. But they by no means get to the heart of the matter.

It’s something way more fundamental but very powerful.

What is it?…

COMMUNICATION.

Now, you may at first think this is too obvious, overly simplified and far too elementary. But that is because you may not have grasped the actual meaning of what true communication is or gained a concept of what it is capable of.

For, knowing THIS, communication can not only keep you out of trouble, you’ll instantly know how to repair it; and, having repaired it, be able to fix the other two key components and therefore recover what love was there in the first place.

To achieve this, you’ll need to do three things:

1. Understand the basic formula of communication, its component parts and come to an understanding of how to use it effectively. Rest assured, most people are far from this. You’re definitely not alone if you and your partner are lacking in this area.
2. Put this understanding into direct application and practice. It takes practice and it can be learned and drilled until you can communicate effectively.
3. Discover how communication gets blunted, cut, warped and otherwise “messed with” in the first place. There are a few basic reasons this happens and knowing them reveals how to protect your bond of communication with your partner as well as fix it when it’s “broken” and nonexistent.

As you can tell already, this would be a powerful change in and of itself, and there are yet two more components to observe!

2. The second component of successful relationships is second to none in its power…

With good communication, you can turn the page in any relationship, romantic, familial, social, business or otherwise. And this opens the door to GETTING ONTO THE SAME PAGE, the second, very crucial component of relationships.

Now, you may think it impossible to “agree on everything” and may have even been told that disagreement is “healthy” or that “opposites attract” when it comes to success.

But opposites have more than their fair share of split-ups too.

By “on the same page” and “agreement” we’re talking about more than just agreeing on certain “issues”. What about the foundation of a marriage or relationship itself? What about the basic agreements of why to be together in the first place?

And where circumstances may have changed, what of the new ones going forward?

Though it’s said that opposites attract, does it say “opposites last” or that they endure in the long run? Celebrity marriages alone may have convinced us otherwise.

But what of those couples who work together from the same source of passion or purpose? Having things in common in ideology, philosophy and purpose are important too.

Common ground can always be found somewhere, enough to make a relationship work from the start or repair where it’s broken.

This is very specifically done and often requires a little supervision, but if the prior step of communication is handled, this becomes an easier proposition. And you can get onto the same page where you weren’t before.

3. The final factor brings everything (and everyone) together…

What is the difference between the couple holding the world record for the longest marriage and two partners on the rocks, on the verge of divorce?

Isn’t it obvious?

The first couple is working together to win a game while the latter two are at odds, opponents playing opposite sides of the game, against each other where someone wins and the other loses.

But does anyone really win when it comes to breakups and divorce?

To safeguard against this or recover from it, you really need to know the specifics of what happens to cooperative endeavors and puts people at odds with each other who were basically communicating and agreeing prior!

Marital partners, business partners or even international relations, this is vital to success.

As you can see, the prior two components of COMMUNICATION and BEING ON THE SAME PAGE have a great deal to do with this last factor of teammates vs opponents.

Though there ARE specific barriers that escape most people’s attention that can ruin a “team sport” (so to speak), the good news is that they can be learned overcome and set back to right.

What REAL marriage counseling is made of has to do with these three components and a keen understanding of their mechanics in making or breaking a group (marriage, relationship, etc)

Can you imagine what’s possible if you knew THOSE secrets and could apply them?

You actually can…

1-2-3, Marriage and relationship counseling that works, simply because…

If you know how a house is built, what components make a strong, durable and liveable home, you can not only maintain one, but you’ll know instantly when something is wrong. And if you know a thing or two about the process it takes to maintain or repair it, you certainly can keep a house in order and in excellent shape.

Shouldn’t it be that way with your marriage? Shouldn’t relationships be this definable?

Who ever said they weren’t?

Only the people who didn’t know what a true marriage, a real, loving relationship consisted of. And, according to the breakup and divorce statistics of the day, it’s got to be at least half!

With communication, you have a channel where ideas can be exchanged. If you know the properties of proper communication you can get through.

If you can communicate, you certainly can be on the same page. And that leads to lots of agreement and cooperation which would mean more team play and less opposition or competition.

And, even when these fail, it’s like having the road map back to where you started. You start to know what’s wrong when something isn’t right and you can therefore fix it before it becomes a problem. This is what those successful couples don’t know they know.

We have a counseling program that does just this and because it is so effective (based on real fundamentals) it can save years of “couples therapy” and wasted time and effort.

One recent couple repaired a marriage they have been trying to fix for years in just seven days uncovering these fundamentals in their relationship and there are numerous other stories like that.

If it is at all possible to restore love and affection that you have long since lost, don’t you deserve a shot at finding out about it and possibly sorting it out?

You do. And your chance is here and now!

It just starts with a reach-out from you…

For help with your relationship or to help anyone else you know with theirs, reach out via text or call at (727) 216-5504. Or just email commsuccess.pam@gmail.com for a free discussion and assessment of the situation.

For further reading on the subject, check out this other article about “love on the rocks” and how to approach repairing it.

We’ve heard all the cliches, seen all the rom-coms and heard the rumors about “love on the rocks” and the “rocky roads” that relationships and marriages seem to inevitably hit.

We’ve watched the rise and fall of celebrity relationships and heard all the gossip in the media about it.

We’ve known some people who have had trouble or “hit the skids” in their relationship and have seen all manner of couples issues, some from afar while others a little closer to home.

We may have even had a few of those experiences ourselves, past or present, and some may expect them in the future. Still, others have lost faith in relationships altogether.

There were over 600 thousand divorces in the US a couple of years back in testament to it all, and one report that same year revealed that 50 percent of marriages resorted to counseling.

It’s ironic that an unbreakable foundation portrayed as a “bedrock” of love and affection can end up “on the rocks” and broken, yet we see examples of it every day.

Does this mean we’re doomed from the moment we take interest in another? Is it over before it began? Do we really “don’t” when we say “I do”?

It turns out that the answer depends not upon endlessly trying to figure out what makes relationships fail, but on what makes an ideal one succeed. Knowing the components of an optimum relationship, you have all you need to know to succeed and even what to do when you drift into rockier waters.

Find out the components of a successful relationship and problems in those relationships become obvious. More importantly, they become simple to handle without need for years of endless “he-said-she-said” counseling.

After all, which would you rather know, a method of coping with a broken relationship, or the secret to building a solid, unbreakable one in the first place?

The choice is clear, but what is the secret to a successful marriage or relationship?

What keeps marriages and relationships off the rocks?

There is really only one guiding principle you can state about this…

If it were true that you’re doomed from the start and things are “over before they begin”, 100% of relationships or marriages would fail.

Period.

Clearly, 100% don’t fail. Whether it’s immediately apparent or not, even you have likely seen some successful ones.

Perhaps you’ve even wondered, “What makes THEM so special? How did THEY make it work when others can’t seem to?” “Why do some succeed while others fail?”

Just as an expert navigator never runs a ship into shallow, rocky waters, neither does someone who knows what successful relationships consist of end up “on the rocks”.

But who knows all about the anatomy of a successful relationship?

The short answer? EVERYONE!

The “secret” components are so obvious, you already ‘know’ them…

The foremost surprise when you restore a couple’s successful relationship is that its makeup turns out to be something they always knew. So obvious they never would have suspected.

In a word? Communication…

I mean, “duh!”, right? Anyone knows this.

But why do couples start out with a lot of it and shatter on the rocks for the lack of it?

What makes communication die?

NOW you’re talking about the real stuff of how to fix a relationship.

What happens to ‘smooth-sailing’ communication that makes it run aground?

While there are endless combinations of possible communication breakdowns, there are only a few simple, specific types of them that cause the rock-solid communication barriers that smash to bits any hopes of a successful union.

While many proclaimed relationship experts cite things like disagreements, misunderstanding, jealousy, trust, compromise, infidelity, and compatibility being the “reasons” for failure, seldom do examining these or finding these faults in a partner ever produce the result of a happy marriage.

Nor does the opinion or evaluation given by a third-party “expert” seem to make things any better. Has finding out YOU are at fault, guilty or in the wrong ever made you feel better toward another? This, in the end, can often be little better in result than arguing.

Have you ever felt great about having lost an argument?

Besides, weren’t arguments the problem with the relationship in the first place?

All relationships started with some good communication…

This is a given. Take any relationship or marriage. There was definitely some mutual love and admiration, affinity and even adoration of one for the other in both directions.

But why stop communicating if it is already so amazing?

Here is where “communication-breaking” factors enter. This is what enshrouds the problem in mystery. We know we decrease or stop communication altogether but, what specifically would make that happen?

The answer to that is an even more adventurous undertaking than the marriage itself!

We use several manuals in our counseling that define and explain these in great detail.

Without them, you’re steering a ship through waters with rocks unseen in your path.

These “rocks” are ever present but can be predicted and avoided if known about.

They have to do with the basic definitions and purposes of marriages and relationships. They generally include things like changes in agreements and circumstances, changes in direction of purpose and especially agreements broken (however subtly) by BOTH parties and not one or the other.

They even include outside influences from others not recognizable by either party.

The list goes on but the base understanding of what made the relationship strong and successful in the first place is really the key to revealing all else.

But these occur in very specific ways and require exactness of process on how to locate them. Once located they alleviate.

Counseling that focuses on these specific factors is bound for success and is why we have had so many people fix their marriages, with full love and affection restored, in a much shorter time than years of “couples therapy” one uncomfortable session at a time.

This is the approach that works in the face of even numerous failed attempts. The previous tries failed not because of destiny or incompatibility, but because of a lack of finding the true cause of the breakdown. Neither “living with it” or “coping strategies” work in the long run.

Locating precisely the “rocks” and how couples end up there does!

Love on the rocks, or rock-solid love of your life?

It’s always the choice. But it’s clear which is the better one.

Even couples who have thought they “grew too far apart” or “want different things” or have “changed” since the original relationships have found the hidden factors which were the actual cause and suddenly realized the relationship wasn’t doomed or over.

For most of them, a new era of their relationship has begun, with more love restored than had been originally present in many cases. These are the reports we get back from people who have solved their marital difficulties in as little as a week using this process.

The point is that, until these specific factors are isolated and discovered, you’re going to end up with results like strategic coping, blame-placing, fault-finding and “compromise” as the only “solutions” in therapy.

While you could call this a “success” of sorts, why settle when you can find the exact deviations from the true communication that once existed and restore it?

Our marriage counseling program does just that and doesn’t take years of therapy to accomplish it. It sorts out how things ended up by tracing them back to where they began and looking for the specific changes which steered them astray.

A ship may smash into millions of pieces on rocky shores, unrepairable, but “love on the rocks” can be restored to all of its original splendor, simply, effectively, and easily in a much more reasonable amount of time.

It’s happening every day. Can it happen for you?

Only if you’re willing to take a look at these things.

Are you?

It just starts with a call or email…

For help with your “rocky” relationship, or to inquire about helping someone you know repair theirs, reach out via text or call at (727) 216-5504 or email at commsuccess.pam@gmail.com for a free discussion and assessment of the situation.