It’s an age-old question in the backs of the minds of adults but is something most seem to accept as a simple fact of life.

And it’s not only that the happiness fades. It’s outright expected to occur in future generations of children when, in adolescence and adulthood, “childish” becomes a derogatory remark.

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But, why should the imagination and vigor of youth fade away, even in memory, when these would be quite useful to most adults? Everyone could use some youthful vigor in the navigation of life, couldn’t they?

Some do retain it, actually, and they stand out because they seem rare. They inspire us and we revere them for this quality.

But, is it so rare as to be available to only a fortunate few?

It wouldn’t be such an issue if it ended with faded memories of the pleasant feelings of childhood. But, somehow we become convinced that, lacking pleasure and happiness in the present, childhood itself is to blame.

The focus is diverted to the poor experiences of early years and memories of childhood become darkened by trauma, loss, upset and travail, when in fact the happiness of childhood often outweighs the few key traumas and upsets of that period of life.

Is it possible to recover your past happy and pleasurable experiences that have been converted to disinterest and cynicism?

It not only is, but it’s actually very easy to do and as simple as recalling what you did yesterday.

How do past upsets get enough power to dominate the present?

It’s become a popular idea to “put the past behind you” or simply “let go of the past” in trying to lead a happy life now. This implies, however, that the past is something to avoid.

But, would this be so if the past was strewn with recallable, relivable happiness? Would anyone want to let go of or put behind them a past of joy, happiness and pleasure? Would you try to avoid a memory of winning the championship or discard one of time spent with your best friend?

Those memories, though faded and long since forgotten, are still there, merely hidden from view. And the way to recover them is the answer to how bad experiences get their power.

You see, it goes like this…

Upsets of the past (traumas, loss, injury, etc) occur during happier periods of life. These, in a way, “attach” themselves to those memories and accumulate over the years.

If you were to take inventory of the experiences of any period of life, you would find that the majority of them were times when you were motivated and enjoying happy pursuits. Especially in childhood, there is a lot of positive “energy” and imagination involved and much of the joy was pretty intense at the time.

When traumas interrupt these periods, even a single one, they can become “attached” to the other experiences and dominate recollection of the past.

Through a cloud of past unpleasantness, it can become difficult to experience happiness in the present, that which was natively inherited as your birthright.

But the pleasure and happiness still underlie it all, and gaining that back is way more valuable than recalling all the trauma in the world.

How can you recover the happiness of childhood and use it in your present adulthood?

This is very simple, actually, and it starts with an ability you natively have.

It’s an ability that allows you to uncover past pleasure which has become blocked, occluded or buried underneath pain and upset and brings it back into view to be reexperienced with the full original emotion and sensation of the experience.

It’s being achieved by many as we speak and has been for some 70+ years now.

Many who have experienced recalling even one moment of pleasure from their past is something to behold. It’s amazing to see the miraculous change in people when they follow the simple but precise steps to accomplish it.

In the guided Self-Counseling program we offer, there is a manual that directs you through a process of simple steps to observe certain past experiences. Through the progress of the program, more and more past pleasure is recovered and made available to reexperience.

And there is your answer to whether or not childhood happiness is available in adulthood. It not only CAN be recovered but it IS being recovered by many every day.

It can be yours. All you have to do is be willing to look. It’s there to be found and you CAN find it!

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The Holidays, special occasions and significant events are wonderful times to bring loved ones together to celebrate.

But if loved ones are so truly “loved”, why is it that, sometimes, they disagree? Why can feuds arise from otherwise happy occasions? Why might people tend toward their lesser feelings toward other family members?

And, for that matter, how do you fix them when they seem so “fixed” in place? Can they ever be resolved?

The apparent explanations of “who did what to whom” and “what happened between mom and grandma” are of little value. After all, do those explanations ever lead to a resolution and a restoration of love and kindness?

With so many years of discord that can happen between relatives, it seems no resolution is at hand, and Holidays can continue for decades to be unpleasant and a catalyst for arguments.

The real answers, however, are not found in the problems between loved ones. The resolution of these problems lies within something that comes naturally to all human beings.

Goodwill, love, compassion, all of these things are actually native, and these hold the answer both to why some families fight and how to restore peace.

The Holidays CAN be happy, even where unhappiness has lived before if you understand this…

Before unhappiness was once happiness, but then this happened…

Whether during the holidays with entire families, the course of a marriage, a friendship or even an alliance or partnership, there were always good intentions and warm feelings toward others that forged the relationship into existence.

But things happen. And, on the surface, it seems pretty apparent what the reasons may be. Someone said something upsetting, one person did the “unthinkable” and angered another, and misgivings and grudges tend to build, lightly at first, but develop as years pass.

Previous feelings of goodness seem a faded, distant memory, occluded by current upset.

And so fights occur.

Factor in the Holidays, their stress and even the blues that can be associated with such times of year and you can begin to understand why such things occur.

The problem isn’t a group problem. It is an individual problem, as families are groups of individuals.

Each person has their own accumulation of loss, hurt, injury, pain and upset throughout their entire life, “haunting” them like Dickens’s “Ghost of Christmas Past” mentioned in the previous article “Holiday Blues, Stress Explained: Scrooge Has the Answer”.

This may be fine on your own, but then you get into a group situation and the past starts to come much more into play. Multiply your experiences times the number of relatives in the room and you can see where things start to break down!

Holiday triggers…

It’s one thing to walk around with unpleasant past experiences, and another altogether to have them triggered.

The environment itself can be such a trigger. A song or movie that makes you feel oddly emotional. A passage you read that made you sad, or news that made you uncomfortable.

But, get together with people who have been close to you throughout all of your experiences, those who have unpleasantries in their own past, and everyone tends to “trigger” each other.

And family feuds are born.

All out of what was once love and togetherness.

But is it all really necessary? Is there another way?

How to un-feud a family feud and restore happiness…

Can you capture the original love that existed before all this feuding? Can you put an end to the fighting and start feeling happy again?

Yes, it is possible. Happiness can be recovered for you and for the family too!

Families have feuded since the beginning of time, it seems, a fact that has become the norm in our culture. And it sometimes seems expected that when families assemble, they are going to argue.

Old grudges, past upsets and just plain ornery inability to get along become amplified when relatives are gathered together, each family member contributing his or her individual misgivings, unspoken grievances and the like.

But, understanding that love and happiness preceded all of this is the answer to undoing group upsets of all kinds. And not just around the Holidays.

By actually recalling and revealing certain past experiences, you can begin to recover the happiness natural to you, and so can others you love and wish to help.

And it isn’t just trauma that you will be recalling.

Buried beneath the fights, some very pleasant experiences can be found too! And recalling them can be joyful and restore a sense of happiness.

How is it done?

Our self-counseling program gives you a guide to finding the right types of things to recall which will help diffuse uncomfortable emotions and recover positive, happy experiences to help restore an overall sense of happiness in the present.

It’s quite a simple program that starts with you taking the 5-minute self-test, the results of which will help us recommend where you should start and to supervise your progress through the self-counseling portion of the program, ensuring you get the best result possible.

The rest will be up to you to find, under our close supervision and guidance.

It is a journey of self-discovery and recovery of happiness many people think has all but disappeared forever. People do recover it and you can too.

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Everyone knows the feeling. For some, it’s stress, while for others it’s a mild inconvenience, and for still others, it’s either anxiety or straight-up depression, the dreaded “Holiday Blues” we hear so much about.

It “ghosts” you in all your activities of work and life, “running in the background” where it doesn’t seem to at other times of the year. Or at least you don’t notice it.

So, what is it about this time of year that seems to affect people in this way, especially a time which is intended to bring joy and cheer?

Why do people get blue, stressed or even withdrawn during what songs have called “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”?

And, if it’s simply the time of year that’s the problem, how come so many people react so differently to it?

The answer lies within Charles Dickens’s “A Christmas Carol” and the story of four ghosts that visit Mr Scrooge, particularly the Ghost of Christmas Past that haunts his present. Even Scrooge experiences heightened stress at this time as he manifested in his “Bah Humbug!” attitude.

Just as Scrooge was able to change his demeanor and his entire life, so can it be remedied for you, all on your own with some “self-counseling” you can do to discover and self-handle what is keeping you from enjoying the Holidays and Life in general too!

And here’s how that happens…

What the past has to do with the present determines the future…

All this talk about “ghosts” from of past is just fiction, right? Or so it would seem…

But, metaphorically speaking, it is pretty real for people to have “ghosts” of the past, shadows of darker, deeply forgotten days “haunting” them in the present.

It is also may be very real to you that certain things in your environment can “trigger” these past experiences providing some degree of torment in the present and future.

The Holidays are a very common trigger of the past.

If you’ve ever watched a movie and been moved to tears or had an overall feeling of grief or sadness, you have undoubtedly experienced it. While movies can be moving, the degree of it is in the eyes of the beholder and what past experiences they have.

And that is the real “Ghost of Christmas Past”. It isn’t so much a spirit floating around and talking to you. It’s more of a shadow of a reaction you’re having in the present based on the forgotten past.

How the future can be changed…

It’s common sense that if you knew the future, you could change it. But did you realize that a look into the past can change it as well?

Scrooge’s epiphany didn’t start after he saw the last ghost. He began seeing the shadows that made him a miser in the present by looking at past loves lost, days ended and youthful ambition and interest having faded to barely an ember. And it moved him.

He was then able to look at his present and understand his way of being. Shown very specific moments of his past, previously hidden from his view, he was able to understand his present. He was then able to see not one but TWO futures.

One lay before him in his present state, a grim, dismal one if he continued to suffer, and the other was a bright, happy, new future he could create having rid himself of all the losses and trauma that stole from him the life he once had.

And that’s the entire point.

What can you do, right now, on your own to transform your Holiday and life experience?

The answer is simple.

But it doesn’t involve just “trying to remember” any bad experiences you may have had.  Just as Ebeneezer needed to be pointed in a specific direction to view experiences he had long since forgotten, so do you need some direction to recall a few things that really count.

The good news is that it doesn’t just include trauma or uncomfortable experience, but moments of pleasure as well. In fact, these pleasure moments are perhaps the most therapeutically valuable.

Charles Dickens’s story of Scrooge’s plight is actually quite accurate when looked at metaphorically. It parallels this concept of “recovering yourself” in a way. What you’re looking to do is not vanquish pain, but get back to yourself, an inherently happy person.

You can be happy where happiness has seemed to all but disappear, even if not chronically, only occurring periodically, especially around the Holidays.

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Obviously, issues such as these vary from person to person, with no two being the same. All of them need equal help however and have them for a similar reason, these “ghosts” of the past that are below your awareness

And as they are a very personal thing, it’s good to take a good look for yourself before discussing it with another.

That is what our self-counseling program is all about. It involves a manual you can follow to start to uncover very specific parts of your past. Some may be sad and uncomfortable, but others are bright and cheerful and,, bring past joy into the present, replacing the pain that has become associated with it with laughter and happiness.

It is recommended that you first take the 5-minute self-test, the results of which will help us recommend where to start and to supervise your progress through the self-counseling portion of the program, ensuring you get the best result.

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After that, you will be given the opportunity to get hold of the guide and workbook that will guide you on your journey, lightly and fully aware, into the past to recover the best parts of you and bring them into the present.

Take the self-test now and see what areas you may need to address.

There is hope for the future if you fix the present. This is the program designed to do just that.